I know I have been quiet for a while but I have been taking the time to heal from being hurt by people's words and actions.
This pandemic has opened up my eyes to many things. The situation we find ourselves in has put people in survival mode and they only looking out for themselves.
I realize that I have to take responsibility for my life. Too often I trust people and I expected them to be the caring people they pretend to be until such time when their true colors are exposed.
I think because I am always giving, it’s obvious that they would naturally give back. I didn't realize that they don’t have to give back. Some people might have ulterior motives for being kind to you and once they get what they want they just disappear. They cut you off and feel nothing as if you did not exist, to begin with. We can’t change people, but we can choose to make better decisions going forward.
I realized that gave them the right to hurt me because I allowed them to. This does not just apply to me, but to others too. I have seen my friend’s hearts broken, time after time by the same person and still they go back expecting them to change trusting and believing in the lies they are told.
Nobody is allowed to break your heart twice!
So if you have been through enough crap, naturally you put your guards up. You avoid anyone that tries to show interest. You are pushing away great opportunities. Instead of pushing away everybody, try to be selective.
Avoid people that gossip to you about others, you better believe that they are gossiping to others about you. The saddest part is that you trust them with all your personal information. Why are you opening your vulnerable self to such people?
You don’t need to have many friends you only need a hand full of genuine ones. Surround yourself with positive, happy, motivating, and supportive people.
We need to learn that we should only share personal matters with people who are genuine.
You can only trust people who make an effort for you but don't expect anything in return. Share with people who know your worth. Help people who help you achieve your goals. I am talking about the hand full of people you can call friends. The friends that will get out of bed at 2 am to come to your rescue.
Always remember to love yourself first and know your worth before inviting someone else into your life. Always work on building a better stronger you so that you can add value to someone else life.
7 Warning signs to avoid this type of partner for a future relationship.
A person that can’t take accountability for mistakes. (this means they can’t apologize and rectify things)
A person that speaks badly about their ex (shows they still hung up on the ex. They have not healed and moved on, it could also mean that they always shifting the blame)
Avoid a person who consistently creates “white lies” to get out of situations. (This will create a lack of trust in time to come.)
Pay attention to the type of people they choose to be around (If you can’t get along with those people because they have different morals or values this will create a problem in the future)
Take note of how they treat other people. ( especially their parents or caregivers) At some point, they can treat you the same.
Be aware of people who can’t be alone. (They hop from one relationship to another.) They could be with you not because they love you but because they need you to fill their void.
When they repeatedly show signs of aggression. (Especially when they can’t control their anger)
A person who is very secretive. (They can't be trusted unless they share the secret with you)
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